Now there comes a time when one must understand letting go is a gift given with free will.  You see for very long it appeared that what made us strong is being able to hold onto our struggles and triumphs regardless of the weight.  Now according to How to Make Sh*T Happen, “Your success and income are DIRECTLY connected with your relationships.” This is to say every relationship: mother, father, co-worker, ex-girlfriend/boyfriend and any others you can think of all affect who you are.  For those of you that may not know, my relationship with my mother is somewhat toxic.  I would not go into that as I am not yet such an accomplished writer to wrap that in large tomes but I’ll give you the general idea.  My mother would call me when I was in undergrad and you could tell by how my mood and body language would shift.   I would be distracted from my academics, I would be angry or mad at those around me even when they weren’t what originally upset me.  I lost so much time and progress and friends over the after effects of this toxic relationship.  So what did I do? I took control and laid it out on my own terms.  It’s been the hardest and best decision I’ve ever done.  I love my mother don’t get me wrong but our relationship still isn’t great but I’ve learned to address it on my terms.  

These relationships for better or worse leave their mark and it truly comes down to YOU to LET IT GO.  If that means breaking out to song like Elsa from Frozen, go for it.  If it means:having a change of scenery, making a daring change, forgiving someone, de stressing with a hobby, handling things on the terms you can handle, I implore you to do it.    You’re not letting them off easy rest assured it’s for you not them.  The heart only pumps so much blood, so why if you need it to take care of your body  would you thin the muscle walls trying to pump blood to 100 people? Take back your passion, take back your anger, it’s yours for a reason.  The family member that wronged you? forgive them.  The friend that abandoned you, forgive them, because they couldn’t see how much they meant.  The amount of energy we invest in unresolved shit can drain you, trust me.  So invest in healthy relationships and make peace with the others, it’s rewarding on its own.